Summary:
This diff implements efficient heterogeneous lookup, insert,
and erase for the fallback (non-SIMD) mode of F14.  It relies on internal
implementation details of the underlying std::unordered_map implementation
that happen to be true for libstdc++, libc++, and MSVC.

Extending this technique to F14 sets would be straightforward, but has
not been done here.

(Note: this ignores all push blocking failures!)

Differential Revision: D21408628

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